>I hate to be a one note horse here, but what do you do when all of a sudden you don’t feel welcome?

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I asked my friend who was going with another friend to go out to eat if they would mind if I tagged along. I was greeted with silence : OK, I can take a hint, that’s fine, but then she said “well, you comin?” when she was ready to leave, without really saying anything in-between, like “Yeah! Come on!” or even a “sure”. I said OK — we were taking separate cars, but I had issues due to my electrical problem, didn’t look like I was going to be able to start the car. I sent her a text message to cancel… received a call shortly after getting the car started after some fiddling and said “well I thought I was having issues — but I got it”. I asked if I should come because I didn’t want it to be all uncomfortable if she really didn’t want me there… I’d just rather not go. Again — silence as a reply. Just freakin say something! yes? no? .:sigh:. Silence = no by default because it’s the more difficult answer.

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I was flustered and perturbed, went for a drive, got it out… and eventually spoke with a few other friends. I had the feeling I was being pushy, but under normal circumstances I would have been given the replies above… or at least some form of acknowledgement that didn’t convey annoyance.

“Nuh!” =]~